The start of a new year often brings reflection and resolve. For adult children with aging parents, it can also bring quiet concern. Are Mom and Dad really okay? What happens if something changes?
Many families delay important conversations until there is a clear problem, but the reality is that planning takes longer than most people expect. Senior living communities often have long waitlists, and choices become limited when decisions are made in a hurry. Starting research earlier allows families to understand options and have informed conversations instead of reactive ones.
“Planning ahead can be as simple as researching several communities, narrowing them down to a few strong options and visiting together,” explained Peg Ashbrock, sales and marketing associate, Ohio Living Llanfair. “When parents make decisions while they are still healthy, they can better adjust and take advantage of social and wellness opportunities. Waiting until a crisis often makes change harder for everyone involved.”
There are often subtle signs that additional support is needed before a major event occurs. Forgetfulness, missed medications, unpaid bills, weight loss, frequent falls, piling mail, old food in the refrigerator or dents on a car can all indicate it is time to talk. These signs do not always mean immediate change, but they should not be ignored.
Family involvement does not have to depend on geography. Siblings and extended family can help manage finances remotely, arrange professional oversight through a geriatric care manager, or connect parents with local resources such as church outreach programs or trusted neighbors. Sharing responsibility reduces stress and keeps everyone informed.
“One of the biggest fears aging parents have is losing control,” shared Kim Kaser, director of business development at Ohio Living Llanfair. “Making decisions earlier helps preserve independence rather than take it away. While leaving a longtime home can be emotional, added support often brings safety, prepared meals and relief from home maintenance. When parents are involved early, they maintain a sense of ownership over their future.”
Kaser continued, “Some caregivers carry guilt, especially when considering senior living or outside help. Planning ahead is not a failure. It is a gift. It allows parents to remain in control and gives adult children the opportunity to return to being sons and daughters instead of full-time caregivers. Support services exist to protect independence, restore identity and give families peace of mind.”